Ben Rathbun, a familiar face from TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, has died at age 55 following a prolonged fight with stage 4 stomach cancer. The former reality star passed away peacefully on Monday, May 19, at his residence in Greencastle, Indiana, according to reports confirmed by TMZ.
A Brief But Impactful Reality TV Journey
Fans first got to know Ben Rathbun during season 5 of Before the 90 Days, which aired in 2022. Then, a 52-year-old divorced father of four, he sparked both intrigue and concern when he began an online romance with Mahogany Roca, a woman from Peru. Their relationship quickly drew skepticism not only from friends and family but also from viewers, due to her reluctance to appear on video calls, prompting fears that he might be the victim of a catfish scam.
Despite the red flags and public scrutiny, Ben Rathbun ultimately traveled to Peru, where he and Roca met in person. Against the odds, their connection solidified, and they eventually tied the knot.
From On-Screen Romance to Off-Screen Struggles
In a February 2024 episode of the spinoff series 90 Day Diaries, Ben Rathbun spoke openly about his marriage and the challenges that followed. “Our civil ceremony was just brilliant,” he said at the time. “I could not believe how beautiful it was.” Although legally wed, he and Roca were still planning to hold a religious wedding ceremony.
However, the honeymoon period was short-lived. Ben Rathbun acknowledged that their relationship was still in its formative stages. “We’re just going through a really difficult transition,” he explained. “I’ve gone about six months without a steady job, and the bills are piling up.” He noted that finances were tight and he was doing all he could to cover household expenses and save for another trip to Peru.
A Love Story Documented on and off Camera
Their engagement, previously revealed in a 2022 YouTube vlog, offered a glimpse into their connection outside the lens of reality TV. Ben Rathbun appeared genuinely committed to building a life with Roca despite the logistical and emotional hurdles they faced as a cross-continental couple.
Still, the couple’s love story was marked by more than just romance. Legal troubles had also plagued Ben Rathbun before his television fame. In March 2022, he was arrested for failing to appear at a court hearing related to a probation violation. According to documents obtained by Us Weekly, he had originally been charged in 2020 for operating a vehicle under the influence and driving with a suspended license. The outcome led to an 18-month probation sentence in early 2021.
A Legacy of Candid Vulnerability
Though his time in the public eye was relatively brief, Ben Rathbun made a lasting impression with his unfiltered openness about life’s highs and lows. Whether it was navigating online love, facing financial struggles, or dealing with health issues, he brought a human element to reality TV that viewers found relatable—even when they disagreed with his decisions.
His final battle stage 4 stomach cancer was one he reportedly fought quietly, having been diagnosed toward the end of 2024. Few details were made public during his illness, making news of his death all the more jarring for longtime fans of the show.
Remembering Ben Rathbun
Those who followed Ben Rathbun’s journey from reality television to real-world challenges will remember a man who defied expectations, chased unconventional love, and shared his imperfections without apology. His story was one of persistence, vulnerability, and ultimately, quiet strength.
As tributes pour in from fans and former cast members, his life serves as a poignant reminder of the complex, sometimes controversial, individuals who populate the world of reality TV. Though he may have started as just another cast member, Ben Rathbun leaves behind a legacy defined not just by televised drama but by the raw realities he never hesitated to share.
The loss of Ben Rathbun at 55 is a sobering moment for the 90 Day Fiancé community. From his emotional love story to his personal struggles and ultimate fight with cancer, his life was anything but ordinary. In the ever-evolving world of reality entertainment, his memory stands as a testament to the depth and humanity that can be found even in the most unexpected places.